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About Coach Rob Allen

 

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Hey there, this is Coach Rob Allen. You probably found this page because you are either married or considering getting married. We help married couples improve relationships, earn more money and provide more for their family.

 

I've been happily married to my beautiful wife Belinda for the last 10 years after dating for 5yrs, 11 months and 9 days. Like all couples we have our highs and lows, but our commitment to God and each other always pulls us through. We've been blessed with 2 wonderful children, Joshua and Naomi. We could not be more grateful.

 

We like traveling the country and different parts of the world, and spending time with our family.

 

We enjoy attending the annual Auto, Boat, and Bridal Shows as well as live theatre.

 

I love empowering others to succeed through Public Speaking and Coaching.

 

As a 3rd Degree Black Belt, I have a positive influence on our emerging leaders. I'm also working to earn my 5th Degree Black Belt.

 

However, life was always like this, My Journey Started ...

 

As a young boy when my parents divorced at age 4. My mom, with her declining health and help from my grandma, raised my sister and I. Somehow, we managed to stay out of trouble and earn our college degrees. Growing up in a single parent household, I know the effects of divorce and the void created by a fatherless home. Although I had nothing to do with their choice to divorce, that decision has had a life-long impact. Even at a young age, I decided, “When I grow up and get married, I’m never getting a divorce and I am going to be there for my kids!”

 

A Storm Was Coming …

 

When my mom passed away 2 months before my 21st birthday, I was lost. I’d never lost anyone close to me before. My grandma’s love kept me stable through the process.

 

I finally met someone. She was very different from anyone I’d met before. Yes, she is gorgeous, that goes without saying. Her inner beauty was captivatingly radiant. She has serving heart, a genuine love for people and she isn’t afraid to speak the truth, in love. I was done. I’d lost all desire to be with anyone else. I only wanted her. After dating for 5 years 11 months and 9 days, we finally got married.

 

We just got back from our honeymoon and just like that, my job was gone. I got another job and shortly after that, my grandma passed away. I was devastated again, but thank God for the love and support of in-laws. I worked in highly competitive, numbers driven industry. I worked for many companies in the industry, with the primary motivation being, what did the position pay? After all, I have a wife to provide for.

 

I made descent money in this industry, but at what cost? I was so focused on the money that even when I was home or on vacation mentally I was still on the clock. I was never fully present and engaged at family gatherings. Even with that personal sacrifice, I ended up losing every single job in that industry. I lost the last job, 3 months, after my son was born. They knew I had newborn, and they fired me anyway. I vowed never to return to that industry again.

 

My mother-in-law (mom) allowed us to rent a bedroom in her home, or we would have been homeless. I took the only job I could get, paying only 25 percent of what I was used to. I tried other ways to make money, real estate, being a mortgage loan officer. I failed miserably, again because I was chasing the money. The recession did not help much either.

 

At this time, my confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect, was at an all-time low. I was in a mental coma for a lack of a better term. To make matters worse, not only was my wife making more money than me, we just found out that our daughter was on the way. It was not the best time to have another baby. Having an abortion or giving up the baby for adoption was never an option. We believe that children are gifts from God. If He sent them, then He’d have to provide for them. We received our gift and He has provided ever since.

 

I began looking for opportunities to advance in this company. A promotion with a raise, allowed us to move into a 2 bedroom apartment. During this process, our marriage was going anywhere. Yes, we both committed to make it work and not divorce, but that was where we were headed, and didn’t even know it. We weren’t angry with each other and, we didn’t argue much, frankly because I didn’t have any fight left in me, at the time. We were just so frustrated with our circumstances more than anything else, that any little thing could trigger a high volume discussion. We were living a life of quiet desperation, leading separate lives, living as roommates, not as husband and wife. We were not happy.

 

Then Something Changed…

 

We began to see more and more couples around us get divorced. I began to see the writing on the wall in our own relationship. I was determined not to go out like that. I soon realized that I was in way over my head. I had the title of husband and father, but I had no idea of what it meant to be either. The power to define is the power to fulfil. Since I didn’t have a point of reference growing up, it’s no wonder that I was about to fail at something that I was not prepared for. My thinking was, if I can keep my zipper up and be around my kids, physically, then I’d be alright. I soon realized that it required way more than I knew I could give.

 

Determined not to have a failed marriage, I began looking for help. I began getting around other successful married couples. Couples who had been married, successfully for 25, 35, 40 and 50 years to the same spouse and successfully raised their children. I began gaining the benefit of their experience by putting their wisdom to work in our relationship. Our marriage has been getting better and better ever since. We are still presented with the same choices when a challenge shows up that we were presented with in the past. But our response is different now, because of new thinking.

 

Our relationship began improving significantly. however when it came to money,  as a provider, I was still coming up short. Our needs were met, but we barely had enough for the things that we wanted to do.

 

I took a second look at the network marking profession, that frankly years ago I didn’t do much with. After getting around some successful industry professionals, and seeing what is possible in the profession. I began to believe what was possible for us.

 

As we began to apply ourselves, with their guidance and direction, we are seeing some positive results. Each month is better than the last. We now have the power to change our circumstance. Having the power to forever get rid of the stress of not having enough money or time, (one of the leading causes of divorce), is an amazing feeling. It’s doing wonderful things for our marriage. Knowing that with consistent effort, better, is not only possible, but I can have it, if I don't quit, is a tremendous confidence booster. It also gives us something positive to talk about, another leading cause of divorce (not talking to each other)

 

A great marriage is not just for us. It is for any couple who wants it and is willing to work toward it.

 

You too can have great marriage if you decide to, and we can help if you allow us. I invite you to get on our mailing list so that you can receive our latest information. If you have any questions, feel free to send me an email with “marital question” in the subject line to rob@coachroballen.com I look forward to connecting with you.

 

Overall, God continues to be Good to us. That is why, as We walk by Faith and not by Sight, We are Empowered To Prosper!! Keep Making it Happen and you too, can have  a great marriage!

 

 

 

 

 

To Your Success!

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